This past week I found myself spending time in Malaysia with an incredibly caring Muslim girl from Borneo (non peninsular Malaysia), and an adventurous, wandering soul from Chile. We spent time hashing out many ideas and questions we had about one another’s culture, but mostly spoke about bucket lists. We all had similar items on our lists, which surprised me, but when we talked about family and future, our lists seemed to change. The idea of fluctuation with age came into play, and I started to question if the list was less than static?
I’ve currently been traveling for almost two months, and I’ve been blessed to meet some great people. It’s been enlightening seeing how people out of their mid-to-late twenties continue to travel beyond the week or two of paid vacation. This gave me the hope that I could be a life long traveler. In the same regard, speaking with my Malaysian friend, she believes that after marriage and childbirth, she hopes to stop traveling to focus more on her family.
She currently is a strong and independent girl who lives alone, while working away from her parents and home. She chose this life, which she thrives in, but hopes to return home and settle down. This was eye opening to me, but the more she began to explain, and the better I got to know her, this concept really made sense. It made me also reexamine where I want to be when I meet the right person, and whether wandering will eventually leave me.
I have a set bucket list and I look at it knowing that things will be added along the way. The question, now, is if with time it too will change.