August 2012

The importance of mentors and role models

Tips for your quarter-life crisis

I turned 25 this year. For those older than 25, this isn’t a big feat. For those around my age, though, 25 is when you start to feel old and have a quarter life crisis.

While going through said crisis, I started to read a lot of articles about being this age, and how to really get the best out of this time in life. One article in particular was from a Christian group, and had a lot of tips that opened my eyes. There were talks of taking courses, having free time, and making sure not to fall into the happy hour mentality (not saying don’t do it at all, but just don’t let it control your 20s.) The tip that stuck out to me most though, was finding a good mentor or role model.

Using travel to progress

Recognizing what makes you happy while on the road

Having been unemployed and traveling for the last few months, I’ve found myself with lots of time to ponder life. Like many kids in my age range (20-30s), I’m quite confused on what I want to do with life. I’m well educated, have a decent amount of job experience, but can’t find a fair-paying job that doesn’t involve serving food or slanging booze. The choice to travel came on a whim after working a desk job for too long, and I must say, I’ve been happier ever since.

On the list: Hike around the world

Bucket list priority

Most people, if you asked, would probably say that traveling around the world is on their bucket list.  There’s something about exploring each corner of our globe that is almost universally appealing.  Most people also, if you asked, would probably insist on having some comfort during their journey.  Hotels, foreign restaurants and traveler’s checks come to mind.  But that’s not my idea of what it really means to travel.  When I finally get my time to make that long journey across the Earth, I want it to be guided by my feet and my thumbs.

Living with intentions

Make your actions count.

For anyone who has ever been involved in the Jesuit sect of Catholicism, the idea of living with intention is probably ingrained in your head. I may not be much of a believer in organized religion, but I do like the idea of making each of your actions count. This is something the Jesuits do right.

The definition of intention is to have aim or an objective. This idea fits perfectly in the idea of living to do. For myself personally, I know living with intention revolves around the little things in life. It’s easy to get into a rhythm that doesn't necessarily lead to moving forward, but having intention can help you move past this.

Make a soundtrack to your life

It’s going to be a movie someday anyway, so why not?

OK, your life may never be made into a television movie starring Jennifer Love Hewitt. But that doesn’t mean you can’t design your own soundtrack to fit your whole life just for kicks. We do it for weddings and funerals, so why not life itself?

To begin, I suppose you could start with whatever song was playing when you were conceived, though that might gross you out to even KNOW it to begin with. So maybe skip that one and go with something your mom played while you were in utero, or maybe something she sang to you as a lullaby. I’m racking my brain to remember anything like this from my own childhood but I can’t, so I have no ideas to share. You could use the one I sang for my daughter, “Tiny Dancer,” if you don’t have one. I don’t mind sharing and neither does she.

Next you might want to add something from your childhood, which, for me, is a mixed tape of Roxette, The Supremes, MC Hammer, and the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles on tour soundtrack. Yeah, I wouldn’t listen to my life soundtrack if I were you. How about sharing some of yours and maybe I’ll borrow them? We can swap songs. In all seriousness, though, this should be something that helps you remember your life, so it’s better to go with what you really listened to or remember.

Riding a bike through Southeast Asia

I remember going to get my motorcycle license with my Dad when I was 18. We both had on thick jeans, flannel shirts and heavy duty riding boots. We went to the mall a few minutes down from our house and met our classmates. After I got my license, I never bought a bike. Maybe it was because I didn’t have much time for work while in university, or maybe it was because I never put working toward a bike at the top of my priority list.

Revolving bucket lists

This past week I found myself spending time in Malaysia with an incredibly caring Muslim girl from Borneo (non peninsular Malaysia), and an adventurous, wandering soul from Chile. We spent time hashing out many ideas and questions we had about one another’s culture, but mostly spoke about bucket lists. We all had similar items on our lists, which surprised me, but when we talked about family and future, our lists seemed to change. The idea of fluctuation with age came into play, and I started to question if the list was less than static?